The responsibility of raising up a child is never easy, mainly because we love our child so much and therefore we are conscious about doing things wrong. Gone are the days when parents are the main influence in their child’s life. For this reason every parent needs to play a key role, not only to offer direction and discipline but also take on the role of being their friend. The responsibility of parenting can be challenging if you try to dominate the relationship with a dogmatic attitude. This could undermine your relationship by disrupting the development process of your child. For example the maturing that comes from allowing them to make their own mistakes and learn from them.
It tends to be times of trouble, or parent and child conflict when positive parenting tips are researched. There is nothing new about positive parenting, you can find books and articles on it dating back to the early 1900s. Positive parenting techniques are rooted in the key element of respecting your child and also teaching them to respect others.
Let your child feel the power of a positive attitude!
Try to empower your child with lots of positive affirmations from an early age. When a child is young, their minds are just like a clean slate – whatever you write on them, they learn exactly the same thing. If you are unable to perform a task with confidence, it may bring a negative impact on your child and they may learn to be negative towards performing the same task. Therefore, never put limitations before your child based on what you can achieve but always encourage them that just because someone else finds something difficult does not mean they will.
Understand and sympathise with the feelings of your child
For positive parenting, it is crucial to understand your child’s feelings. If your child doesn’t want to share their toy with anyone, you shouldn’t force him to do that. Rather you should sympathetically make him understand the value of taking turns and the little joy of sharing things in life.
Teach them to respect family rules on rule at a time
If you fix a lot of strict rules for your family, it may be difficult for your child to understand and learn them at the same time. It would be better to figure out the major family rule and explain them along with their consequences to your child. If they fail to follow the rules at the first attempt don’t be disappointed or angry just explain them again and again.
Help your child learn the value of giving to others
There is a saying “sharing is caring”. If at a young age you can teach your child to give to others you would have planted a good foundation for them. Looking out for others and giving to others will help your child understand the value of community. You will also teach them the benefits of joining with others in order to get more done. Whether in a work or school environment sharing and caring for others will help your child to be appreciated outside of the home environment.
Encourage your child to express his feelings
Proper communication between all the members is important for a family. Such healthy communication will ultimately help your child to express and share feelings with others. In fact, sharing thoughts and feelings is essential especially when your children become older and need to communicate with the wider community. Many parents state that when their children became teenagers they just simply stopped communicating with them. You can say that it happens because they were not taught or encouraged to show their feelings as a young child.
Never ignore the source of misbehaviour
Misbehaviour always comes with a deeper issue. If you find any recent change in your child’s behaviour, try to find out its cause. Then take the right strategy to rectify it. For example if you suddenly find your four-year-old child starts dumping toys on your desk, try to find out whether she is upset that you have been working since morning and not giving them proper attention.
Support your child in building their self-esteem
If you praise your child only when they achieve something great they may only feel valued from performing well. Instead, you should support them unconditionally, not only by evaluating their achievements. It is one of the crucial strategies of positive parenting.
For example, if your child draws a picture, instead of praising the drawing as ‘it’s really good!’ you should say, ‘can you share your experience about this drawing? It seems that you enjoyed a lot whilst doing it’.
Your behaviour with your child determines the way that they are going to treat others in the future. If you want to raise your child to be a positive person, full of life and love, exercise positive parenting from a very early age. You can find more free information at: https://www.familyandchildcaretrust.org/contact-family-workshops. If you would like to share your experience of any family related issue then please email us your aritcle to the address: Danielle.firstname.lastname@example.org
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